Build A Connection With Your Children

by Sean Whalen July 26, 2020 3 min read

Build A Connection With Your Children

My friends, those of you that are parents, I have a quick message for you.

I am a father of three children.

I have a 16-year-old daughter, a 13-year-old son and a 10-year-old son.

And I just got a message from a client of mine over in The Lion's Den.

He said, "Sean, my son, he likes to play video games and do all these things."

And he was frustrated.

He's like, "I want him to be out earning extra money and doing different things," and so on and so forth.

I shared with him and I want to share with you something that I learned a few years ago from a very wise man.

He told me that, as I was a Mormon missionary, I was teaching this family the discussions, and one of their kids didn't want to have it.

He just wasn't participating.

He wasn't there.

He didn't want to...

He was just kind of aloof and he loved to play video games.

And so I asked my mission president, I said, "President, what do I do to try and connect with this kid?"

And he said, "Play video games with him."

And I was like, "Okay, cool."

And I can tell you that I took that lesson and I have taken that lesson into being a father.

And I can tell you that there's a lot of things that my kids do admit they're involved with that don't concern me, that I don't really care about.

My son who is 13, him and his friends like to play Fortnite.

I really could care less about video games.

I didn't really grow up with them.

I'm not good at them.

I've still never beat super Mario brothers, which... whatever.

But I realized that like my son enjoys this. He doesn't play for hours and hours.

They play every now and again.

And I can tell you like me stepping into his world and having him teach me how to play Fortnite.

He kicks my ass every single time.

But the reality is, we bond there.

And a lot of parents right now feel disconnected from their kids because of technology or because of this.

Or dads want their kids to be hustlers and entrepreneurs and builders like they are, and I can tell you that these kids are growing up in a completely different day and age.

But you and I grew up, a parent when we were kids, it's not very far off.

Kids are looking for connection, man.

If you want to connect with your kid, go inside of their world.

Find out what they love.

Find out what they like.

My daughter loves horses and I've hired some very, very, very good trainers to teach my daughter about horses.

My daughter knows way more than me about horses.

When I show up to the barn, even though they're my horses, I don't try and pretend that I know more than she does.

I let her teach me. I let her share with me.

I let her show me the things that she knows.

Just contemplate that parents.

If you have a kid that you're struggling with, that you're struggling connecting with, that you feel as aloof or they play video games, and you want to build a bond and a friendship and a connection with your children, go inside of their world.

Find out what they love, find out what they love to do.

And it might not be something that you even give a shit about.

But if you give a shit about them, you're going to give a shit about their world.

Stop and play video games with them for a minute.

Let them teach you something.

Let them share with you what it is that they're really good at or what they do.

It might not be what you like.

But I promise you, it'll build a bond and a friendship with your kids that will be forever remembered.

My friends, if you have kids, if you're a parent, if you know a parent, if you know somebody who has kids, please share this message with them.

Have an amazing day.

God Bless America.

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